The Gifts Of Shadow Alchemy In Relationships: Eclipse & Equinox Energy Update & Code Transmission

In this time between eclipses and entering the equinox portal, there is a heightened opportunity for releasing, clearing and upgrading possible now on all levels. The retraction and expansion process, the death and then the rebirths, the tensions and the releases, the separations and the unificiations…these sacred cycles that facilitate deep healing are being amplified now.

I’m feeling there may be regular (even daily) writings/videos coming from me during this passage containing codes of support, upgrade and nourishment for you to take in as you resonate…along with the codes offered in our Eclipse/Equinox transmission virtual Sunday Service coming up on March 23rd.

The lunar eclipse seemed to offer an intense deep dive into shadow clearing, karmic cycles, and emotional purging, especially in relationships of all kinds. Some deep stuff from your past (this life or other lifetimes) relationship patterns may be coming up to be seen and felt with the parts/aspects who are still in trauma processing and digesting there.

I experienced this myself coming out of our two day monthly group this weekend as a community where some deep processing came up that felt more like ‘the old way’ of being that needed clearing and digesting, pushing up fears of separation as well.

This invited me to go into some deeper places of shadow and trauma processing afterwards to feel previous ways parts of me had been around my leadership and service as the karmic patterns and contracts of making anything happen, being a bridge, self sacrifice and ‘owing anyone anything' fall away to allow the new codes of self worth and self loving alignment, resonance, and natural flow/draw in overflowing service to come in. I felt accountability for what parts of me had drawn and co-created in sometimes overly messy and often painful (yet growthful) cycles with non-resonant people in the past, the impact on myself and my beloveds, and the invitation now to keep moving into the new mutually nourishing grounds together and in co-leadership with Raphael.

We processed this as a group afterwards, exchanged genuine remorse and forgiveness, and feel even more aligned together now coming out of it. Feeling we are even more truly in "it' together watering these divine self embodiment process seeds in our sacred garden that we 'get to have' this goodness together and don't have to sacrifice it or defend it or explain it even is a NEW code for my soul. Since the shadow and trailing edge energies didn't get ignored, judged or repressed by any of us (including inside me) yet were seen/felt with love, we all could feel new flows of relief, goodness, and resolution coming between us.

Through this, I was feeling the true value of intimate relationships that offer enough safety and emotional/soul maturity to go into the triggers that come up together, the mirrors that you are for each other, and into the resolution through mutual forgiveness/accountability of the charges/reactions/impacts as well. I feel there is NO greater shadow work and emotional work process possible than what can be explored in deeply intimate relationship with a Divine Union partner and within a small, intimate community of soul family as well.

Shadow Work As A Lone Wolf

Shadow work itself can be related to as a somehow solitary process, as if ‘studying it’ is enough to understand it. When, really, it is going into and being with the alchemical and emotional shifts that can ONLY really be pushed by being in relationships. Answering the triggers that come up with self love and love for other, allowing for true resolution and healing.

So many souls are in a lone wolf phase of their awakening process, having let go of many 3D relationships and even 4D karmic soul family configurations that are no longer nourishing. Yet then the only ‘safety’ comes from remaining in their own cave of self isolation. Too long in the lone wolf phase and your Gatekeeper (soul guardian)/Protector become TOO comfortable and no longer want to risk being loved, even by those who are in potentially deep resonance with you. Esp in the masculine, this can lead to becoming too mentally focused, in the 3D/4D ego, too much ‘head’ and not enough ‘heart’....or in near constant cycles of intense suffering, heaviness, shame, and unworthiness processing that pushes all others away.

Being in aligned relationships with souls who are engaged in healing themselves in a conscious way both challenges us AND lifts us up from inside and out…..the embodying sacred feminine offering a sweet balm of forgiveness and compassion and the embodying sacred masculine a steady yet provocative/stirring/inspiring holding.

I’m sharing about this as I am increasingly humbled and honored by the containers that I get to explore of this relational upgrade grounds with my partner Raphael for all these years and yet, also, in our small, intimate community of beloveds as well. I am always growing, learning, and embodying more of my divine self through these relationships, as my soul knew that it needed the support and crucible of them this life.

Outgrowing 'safe' spiritual containers

Integrating these lunar eclipse codes offers a feeling into where ‘shadow work/ascension process/emotional healing/spiritual practice’ has actually become a hiding ground for parts of you. This can also happen too for those who are capping out at the gateway experience of attending spiritual events and retreats on a sporadic basis, used as a substitute for going deeper in community and relationships on a regular, ongoing, exclusive basis. These ‘inclusive’ gateways (everyone welcome, no one pre-qualified or pre-initiated with little to no leadership and shared value system) of spiritual retreats/events and/or compartmentalized sessions with paid facilitators can offer important activations for a phase. They can also be a ‘camping out’ place of self protection, stuckness, and resisting being known and seen by others for protective parts.

Feeling into if you have outgrown these offerings now and parts of you are actually not stimulated, not seen/felt/known or just not resonant anymore can be an interesting exploration.

I would offer that unless your ongoing awakening and emotional reality processing around that is being experienced in truly intimate relationships with others (and not just by yourself or with paid spaceholders in sessions, and/or at retreats/spiritual events) there is most likely a ‘fusion’ to an overly protective part of you that has become more defended than open to the gifts that only the bliss messy grounds of relationships can offer. These compartments exist of safety until there is enough Divine self essence embodied by you and with protective parts of you to allow them to be dissolved.

Negotiation with your Protector/Gatekeeper and what their fears are of going deeper into intimacy with you, with others and with the Divine collapses these walls and opens your higher heart. It allows for more trust to flow through and draws in aligned souls to be in this exploration with you in nourishing ways that TRULY completes the cycles of codependency, abuse, toxicity etc. that we have all experienced in our lifetimes here.

Wanderer/starseeds/healers (those of us who come from higher dimensional places) can be so self contained in certain ways as so much about the 3D Earth dimension has been challenging for us, especially in relationships. Yet, it seems that we usually ‘sign up’ to reunite with some of our soul family and our divine union counterpart to support us on this journey. And this especially seems to be the case in this lifetime of accelerated ascension.

Divine Self Embodiment Codes

Here are some Divine self embodiment codes being offered now during this passage around this: 

Sacred Union Codes: I AM a sacred union of Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine within.

The masculine and feminine within you seek balance, moving beyond distortion into sacred partnership—both within and in relationships. Let your inner masculine hold steady and guide, while your inner feminine flows and surrenders to love.

Shadow Alchemy Codes: I AM safe to explore my shadows in the light of love. I AM releasing karmic cycles and stepping into sovereign choice. I AM no longer hiding behind my awakening…I AM living it. The shadows surfacing now are not meant to be analyzed from a distance but felt deeply in the alchemical fires of relationship. Lean into the mirrors that soul family and Divine Union offer, letting the heat of sacred conflict transmute old karmic ties into sovereign, resonant bonds.

Surrender Codes: I AM surrendering to Divine trust and allowing love to flow. The parts of you still clinging to lone wolf safety or karmic cycles are invited into the flow of Divine trust. Breathe in the support of soul family, release the walls, and let your vulnerability be a bridge to deeper nourishment.

Eclipse Rebirth Codes: I AM worthy of Divine love with myself, others and the Divine. I step into my next timeline with clarity and love.

Old ways of service through self-sacrifice are burning away, making space for overflowing, self-loving leadership. Your worthiness is no longer tied to what you give but to the radiance of what you ARE.

Equinox Balance Codes: I AM balanced, present, and embodied in my healing. I harmonize giving and receiving in my relationships.

The shift from over-processing to embodied presence is here. Being ‘in the work’ is not meant to be a hiding place; true healing and ascension happen in the relational field of love, intimacy, and real-time experience.

5D Unity Codes:  I release fear and trust in the Divine flow of relationships. I open my heart to those who truly see and honor me. I AM fully seen, fully met, and fully loved in my Divine essence. I invite love to guide me into sacred connection.

The heart longs for union, communion, and co-creation in this next phase of embodiment. The Divine offers you soul family and beloved reflections….step beyond the veil of fear and into the dance of being truly seen, felt, and met.

These codes open portals to new relationship templates, inviting parts of you into safety, trust, and resonance with those who are meant to walk this next phase with you.

Much love to you as we go deeper into this revelation of self through love passage,

Jelelle Awen

Join us for a Divine Union counterpart and soul family transmission during our Eclipse Passage & Equinox: A Portal of Transformation Sunday Service over zoom on March, 23rd at 16:00 GMT/12pm EDT with more info at divineselfembodiment.com/events